What is your romantic market value? 6 reasons why people fall in love

“John’s really into you, Nickie,” Kiesha said after swallowing a sip of the chocolate shake.

“He’s not my cup of tea,” Nickie replied with a disgusted smile on her face.

“Come on, he’s really a good guy. Give that guy a chance,” Kiesha pleaded.

“He can’t even speak English properly. And look at the way he dresses. The guy’s from the Stone Age. I’d be so embarrassed to be seen with him,” irritation tinged Nikie’s voice. She swallowed another swallow of milkshake.

“I guess that’s what John must be saying about you. He doesn’t even look at you, but you’re dying to be in his company. Look at the girls he hangs out with: the contestants on the queen show and the top cheerleaders. The sports- The man of the year has no time for simple girls like us, Nickie. Wake up!”. Keisha snapped back.

“Let’s drop the subject. Okay,” Nickie slammed her empty glass down on the table.

Nickie has shown her dislike for John because of the value he places on John. John had a very low romantic market value.

Similarly, men are attracted to women that they can show off to their friends and family: trophy or high-value women. Men want women who make their friends look at them in admiration and wonder. We all want partners who can enhance our image and personality.

Internationally renowned communication expert Leil Lowndes says, “Studies support the thesis that everyone has measurable value on the open market. And everyone wants to get the best possible deal in life, too.” The researchers dubbed his findings the equity (or exchange) theory. of love.”

In simple terms, we all love a person who is sometimes referred to as a “catch”.

The way to get the best “catch” is to become a good “catch” yourself.

How can we become the best option for the people we want to attract? How can we increase our market value to attract the romantic buyers of our choice?

First of all, you have to accept that most people are attracted to other people who have equal or higher qualifications than you. We are hardly attracted to people who are somewhat “inferior” to us.

Lowndes in his best-selling book “How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You” says that there are six elements that are active when lovers go shopping for a husband or wife:

1. Physical appearance – beauty

2. Material possessions – wealth

3. Social position or popularity – prestige/power

4. Information or knowledge – intelligence

5. Social grace, manners, charisma – personality

6. Inner nature – character

“Researchers tell us that the happiest relationships are with people who are about the same in each of the above categories. If not, the qualities balance each other out across the board,” Lowndes said.

Have you noticed that people with money tend to marry other people with money? Children of upper-class families rarely marry into working-class families. Similarly, most people tend to marry other people who are just as physically attractive as there are. Many couples tend to look like brother and sister. Studies from around the world (USA, Canada, Germany, Japan) show that men and women tend to marry someone as attractive as themselves.

Yes, people can and do get involved with other people who may not be as beautiful as they are. However, that person would compensate by having a high rating in another category. I mean, when a beauty queen marries a beast, he’s usually very rich or powerful. Similarly, when the high-status family marries people who are lower on the social ladder, the person is usually very attractive or very intelligent. There’s a nice trade-off in another section, like Prince Charles and Lady Dianna.