What every man should know: How to get my ex girlfriend back

I wrote an article for women a while back, which contained some practical (albeit counter-intuitive) ideas on how to get an ex boyfriend back after being dumped.

Right now, I’m going to do the same for all the guys who just got dumped by the girl they love… or… feel like they could be dumped at any moment.

If you’ve read that article, you’ll be surprised to find that my advice to men is pretty similar to what I give women. Although I am of the firm belief that these ideas are even more effective when used by men, simply because women (as a whole) tend to make more decisions based on how you make them feel. Which means that if you play your cards right, you can bring her back into your life more often than not.

Now in my life I have been both the abandoned one and the abandoner. I’ve been involved in ‘mutual’ breakups and have successfully reignited romances that you’d say were dead in the water.

Let me tell you, these techniques will work. If you are consistent with them. You can’t use them part of the time, and then part of the time do whatever you want. OK? And while some of them might seem like the wrong thing to do, just trust me and make up your mind to give them a try. Because let’s be honest. If you’ve found this article, I’m guessing what you’ve been trying so far hasn’t worked.

Let’s go for it. There are three. Just three main things you need to do to get your girl back in your arms faster than you can say “I just want to talk to you.”

Goal first. You have to cheer up. Let’s just say for a moment that he’s gone forever. You have to face reality. It’s not the worst that can happen. You will survive. You will continue to lead a happy life even without her. Also, moping around like you hate the world is definitely NOT going to bring her back.

Here is a truth for you. The more you feel like you need something, the less you will have it in your life. Now this applies to just about everything, but it’s especially true when it comes to women.

So what does this mean?

I mean you have to stop acting like your world revolves around her (even if it does). You have to know that even though you would rather be with her, you don’t need her to make you happy.

Understood? OK, now we go with those three things to recover it.

Number one. Give up all her attempts to pressure her to come back. No more criticizing her for her flaws or for what she may or may not have done in the past. And no more win. In short, she starts acting like a man.

The more you push her to come back, the less she’ll want to. He’ll start to believe that he can have you anytime he wants, and that’s when you’re screwed.

What you have to do instead is…

Number two. According to her. Yes, you heard me. Accept. Does she think you should ‘take a break’ or ‘see other people for a while’? No problem, say you feel the same.

“Wow! But that’s not what I want” I hear you say. True, but if you fight with her about this, if you argue, all you’ll do is appear needy and reinforce her decision to break up. But when you agree…

When you agree, you catch her off guard. She doesn’t expect it. This is what you say:

“I agree, we should break up. I’d rather we didn’t, but given (what she’s told you) you’re right.”

Number two (part 2). If they criticize or attack you in any way, don’t come to your own defense. Accept. And watch the claws retract.

Number Three. Act like you’re fine with everything the way it is. In other words, act happy. Even if you’re not happy, act like it. Decide right now to enjoy your life without her. Go out, meet other people. Do things you may not have had time for while you were together.

When she sees that you don’t need her in your life to be happy, her attraction to you will flourish. Trust me.

Now. While I advocate dating other people during this time, I don’t recommend starting a sexual relationship with anyone new if you still want to get back together. However, if you end up finding someone who is better than your ex then go ahead. I just know that it can make things a little more complicated in the future.

This is not all you need to know to get your girl back in your life. But it is the foundation on which any other ‘tactic’ or ‘strategy’ must be built.

And when you follow the three points above and put them into practice in your life, you will be amazed at the results.

Side note: Whatever you do, whenever you see, talk to, or email your ex… keep the conversation light, lighthearted, and short. Breaking down into a prolonged emotional start is the worst thing you can do. So try to avoid that, okay?