How to develop the powerful and irresistible mindset of a natural seducer
When you approach a beautiful woman in a bar or other social setting, what goes through your mind? Most guys have thoughts of “I hope she likes it” or “I hope I don’t say something stupid” or something similar. Unfortunately, this gives her all of her perception or image of herself. Your self-image is a powerful indicator of how you feel about receiving the good things in life.
If you have “I hope you like it” thoughts, what you’re doing is allowing your social value to be determined by someone you don’t even know. Would you give your wallet or house keys to someone without even introducing yourself first? Of course not. Yet that’s what happens over and over again when guys approach girls with the “I hope she likes him” attitude.
While it feels absolutely wonderful (probably more than anything else) to know that a really attractive woman with a great personality finds you attractive, you shouldn’t let your self-image depend on what a girl thinks of you.
Of course, if you’ve been in a relationship with someone for a while, then you’re certainly going to respect their opinion. But a girl you’ve never met before?
The easiest way most guys learn to get around this is to approach it from a curiosity standpoint. (And no, I don’t mean being curious about whether or not he likes you!) Curious about his personality, curious about his interests, curious about his political beliefs, and most importantly, curious about whether he has enough guts to be included. in your life.
The single most powerful thought shift you can undertake to dramatically improve your seduction success with women is to separate your self-image from her response to you.
Allow him the freedom to express his likes and dislikes without worrying that you will get angry. Everyone is entitled to their opinions, wishes, and idiosyncrasies. You will notice that when you fully develop this mindset, your seduction skills will become more powerful than you can imagine. But be careful, you don’t want to go too far.