reviewing your past
You are in your living room, lying on your couch, trying to remember who you were at eighteen, twenty-five, thirty-six, and wondering why you are so different today. What happened to all your dreams, your plans for the future? How did life slip away from you without even realizing it?
When we try to relive those years, are our memories of the events accurate? Do we see them as they were or as we would have liked them to be? Do we make excuses for our decisions, try to rationalize them, or live with regrets about what we left behind to get where we are?
Where are the friends we used to have, the ones we gave up because we rationalized that we were moving on, growing up? Did we really know each other well enough to make the kinds of decisions that would affect our entire lives before we knew, with absolute certainty, the kind of life we were signing up for?
Many people move through life on autopilot, not happy with their lives but too lazy or too scared to make the necessary changes.
How did you get to this career? If it no longer suits you or you don’t really want to go to work every day, maybe it’s time to change the type of work you do. If you’re married and feeling stuck with kids and a huge mortgage, maybe it’s time to have that conversation with your spouse and see if he or she feels as stuck as you do.
It’s never too late to change your career or make different financial and living arrangements with your spouse. If you have the money, it’s never too late to take the trips you imagined taking when you were eighteen, twenty-five or thirty-six.
But, above all, it is knowing yourself as you are now. Are your dreams still dormant in your heart and mind or have you changed your dreams?
There’s no big shame in changing your dreams as long as you don’t kid yourself or make excuses for not pursuing your original dreams, all of which makes me wonder why you let your life slip away, why you never realized it before. , and what you are going to do to get back the life you lost.